Sometimes people make me sick. I just dont get it. You try and care about people and they turn on you.

Here's the situation: Our roommate and friend for about two years just stops talking to us. Completely. He just locks himself into his room and for days doesnt come out after posting a blog about feeling used and taken advantage of. We asked if he was okay and he didnt want to talk about it. So we respected his wishes and thought whatever it was that was bothering him would blow over.

A week passed. So I sent him a message on myspace asking what was wrong and that if he needed anything to let us know cause we were concerned. He posted back saying that he was upset with some things with us and wanted to reflect upon them before blowing up over something that was nothing.

Another week passed. So concerned I ask again what is wrong. I stated that if he was upset with something we had done or said to talk to us because that is what friends did. If we had a problem that we could discuss things and find a solution because that is what friends do.

Days pass and I get a letter back pretty much blasting me for talking down to him and saying that we were bad friends to other people in our circle of friends and that we take advantage of our friends and him. He also went on to say that we were talking about him and his girlfriend behind his back. These things could not be further from the truth.

We have no problems with his relationship. Hell we are happy for him. It is a new relationship and one that is long distance and we voiced concern for our friend who was picking up everything he had to go live with his new lady friend. We also said that we supported him and cared about him but just didnt want him to get hurt at all. His new girlfriend is 18 and lives with her parents and he would be moving out of state to be with her. Nothing negative said. Nothing mean or confrontational.

The pieces of the puzzle always seem to fall into place when you look at the big picture. So we call our "other friends in our circle". They have been saying that they might come stay with us to get out on their own together for quite some time. Everytime we talk though it is a different story. Because we want to make sure our finances are covered after our room mate moves out we asked a third individual that if the couple did not want to move in if he would be interested.  We were just lining up people. We spoke to the couple again and there was more flip flopping on whether or not they would and Minda said well we asked someone else if you can not decided soon and let us know.  We heard nothing. Then this stuff starts with our room mate. (BTW the couple hangs out with our roommate religiously ) So today after I sharing what our room mate had stated in a message, Minda contacted the couple to find out what if anything was going on. We were informed that their feelings were hurt because we asked someone else so they were looking elsewhere. It all made sense. They were upset well the male member of the couple was upset because we were planning a back up and now have stirred up stuff with our room mate.

I dont get why people have to be so petty. We never once said we would not rent the room to them we were just covering our bases because of their inability to commit. It is really one of the reasons I dont have a whole shlew of friends. If you are my friend I am there for you and will do whatever for you. I cant see why not everyone is the same way....

Thank you for reading. It is therapudic to get out out. All you are good friends and friends that I wish to get closer to. Thank you for blessing my life and may you have great days till we see each other again. Thanks!